What is Counselling ?
Counselling is often called 'Talking Therapy' because the benefit gained comes from
the talking that takes place between you and your counsellor. Sharing
your concerns can often help you clarify the problem yourself.
This may sound simple but very often, when we are having difficulties and our thoughts whirl around in ever decreasing circles, then explaining it all to someone who does not know any of the people involved can be extremely helpful. You may find yourself expanding your thinking again bringing a greater insight and awareness of your problem.
As a counsellor, I am trained to listen
and will try to understand what you are feeling. I will reflect this
back to you so that we both come to understand the issues more clearly.
You will not be given advice or opinions but will be offered an
opportunity to look at your situation from several angles so that you
can decide for yourself what you would like to try and do about it.
You
will be helped to recognise and draw on your own strengths and
resources. You may even discover new qualities you didn't know you had.
Not only is counselling a place to explore difficult issues, it also a space in which to grow and develop.
However,
counselling is not just about thinking. It is very much about
expressing feelings. How you express your feelings is personal and we
all have individual ways of doing this.
Being able to share how you feel about yourself and others with your counsellor and having your feelings heard and respected can be extremely helpful in facilitating change.
As you begin to understand and
acknowledge your feelings you may be able to start changing patterns of
behaviour which keep recurring and causing difficulties.
In order to
understand your feelings you may need to look at the past and see where
such feelings originated and how they developed. I will be able to
explore this with you.
Gradually, you may become aware of how your past is influencing the present and how this affects your feelings about yourself and your relationships.